~Baby It's True~

Baby it's true... I'll forever love you And I know you will forever Love me too. Dreaming warm thoughts of you As I peacefully sleep Knowing my love for you Is forever deep In my heart I will treasure and keep. Baby it's true... That when I look into your eyes My feelings of love and happiness Shine through because I'm no longer blue. Feeling your tender touch Upon my delicate face Gazing into my eyes of green Assures me that you love me Oh, so very much "Baby, you say...it's NOT a dream." Listening to love songs on the radio I reminice of us making love under a cadles' glow Thoughts of you dance in my mind Longing to be in the arms of your embrace, Warm and gentle and such a soothing place. Baby it's true... That everynight I pray for our love Always be forever strong For it's in each others' arms where we belong. Its for eternity.......

Marriage

Secrets of Marriage…. Today, i am appreciating the work of another author, it was a great piece, a must read, a fresh reasonable outlook … i loved it. what do you, dear friends think? i just had to share this...... —— If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature. If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming! If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal. If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. PHCN will not give a waiver because your love is so strong and your gazes at each other is so romantic. If you are not ready to let go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends. If you are not ready to stop competing with the JayZs…. don’t get married. Let the JayZs buy their yatch when you are still walking, and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people. If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain. If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your chips fungai. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving. Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risque life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus [who we were told "discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who were in it, knew that it existed :-) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”. Marriage, like life in general, has many “we sail on” days. You have to learn to find the thrill in the normal every dayness of it. If you depend on wild romance, all night sex [ha], romantic cruises, wild parties, compulsive moves across continents, tempestuous fights and make up sessions to be happy, you may be disappointed. You have to learn to thrill in gentle smiles, loving hugs, knowing looks, cozy moments, shared chores, cute babies, everyday work, dreaming together, praying together and simply living together. If these things are not thrilling, exciting and satisfying, you will look for a way out. The “boom twaff” moments are still there, but they are normally punctuations to the usualness of living. They cannot be your reason for getting married. They are unsustainable on an everyday basis. The one you choose must be thrilling to you even in the most mundane of moments. I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :-) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating. Marriage is for the mature and in many ways, the married are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day. If you are not ready for that demand, don’t get married!!!!

My Pride, My Joy

My Pride, My joy,
your journey into my life is one that when i remember i shed tears,but in it all i give thanks to God for giving me u as a gift by force because surely i was not ready for your kind of gift when u came. but really i m so proud of you. you gave me a new name and i hold my head up high now.
I Love you so much my dear Son, My first fruit.

What Has Love Turned into

Once upon a time, I used to get love letters, had poems written and composed for me by my numerous admirers, a smile their way is mostly enough reward to them, holding hands literally meant we are an item, we barely kiss, and whenever we do, it meant am his and he's mine till the end of time.

Now, love is complicated, love has lost its meaning, I no longer know what’s what. There's deception everywhere, even when you choose to love your partner against all odds you discover he's with you for "some reasons" how do you handle that?

Where love ,sex, and passion means marriage, when proposing or being proposed to becomes magical, where you'd want to live and die for each other ,when nothing else's matters but your love for each other, where Celine Dion's lyrics seems as though she could see through your very hearts. That's how I used to feel but now I one date three guys without even blinking

I ask myself have we all lost our conscience or do we no longer own souls within us? Or are we too hurt and heartbroken that we have gone numb in the heart?

There are so many girls in the world who have lost their dignity in the name of love. It's really sad when you choose to abstain from sex while you are in a relationship, and no one cares. It's heartbrreaking that being a virgin means nothing , you are even called lame for being one. it's sickening when guys looks at you and see no treasure or value.

I wonder where we got it wrong. In India, the family of the girl arranges her marriage and then goes to the husband’s house to pay his dowry and hope for them to fibs love in eachother overtime. In Nigeria once upon a time, women marry their high school sweetheart , and amazing when they celebrate 50th years anniversary culminating their relationship.

Love in our time is based on reasons, it's challenging and complicated from both sides
I wonder what the challenge is, or how to bring back the lost glory and pride in being a woman. Am a love believer ,I love to love, I love loving, but am scared to love now cos I have had it thrown back at my face many times.

My good and decent girl character didn't compensate for true love. What has love turned into in our time? This are the constant ringing questions in my head, what happened to the bubbly love feeling you get when you are with him? what happened to him making confessions and loving genuinely? What happened? Where did it all go wrong? How do we bring back love like we once felt and knew?

Its Been 3 years daddy!!!!

3 years is gone; yet the memory is so fresh! yet we miss u like it was yesterday. at differnt times we all put this piece up to know we love you so much and miss you greatly.

Dear Papa J
how can i begin to recount the events that followed when i held the news of your passing to Glory 3 years ago, i know it was never your intent to leave so soon but in all God knows why he called you home as at when he did one big lesson i learnt from all of this is that every man should live his life in accordance with the boys scout motto "BE PREPARED" because no man knows when his ow...n clarion call will come. But then Daddy the legacies you left behind we are proud to say we are sustaining them. your wife our mummy is doing great,brother WALE as been a big brother indeed,YOMI is looking more like you every passing day,FUNKE is trying to make you happy by the day and her baby boy IJINLEIFEOLUWA taking after you, YINKA is missing more than ever more so you were not here to welcome her baby DEMILADE but never mind i was there all through his biirth what a dashing and intelligent boy for his age, TAYE is still is usual self all smiles and KEHINDE your secret favourite is still as resolute and dogged to achieve his aims as ever. my sweet heart sends her greetings the newest addition to the family OLUWATOYIN OYEYINKA.
we all miss you.
your son
ADEYEMI

Firstly the battle is over its 3yrs today dad u left us all wish miss u so much dad,we ve been strong,firm,and we all ave being one as your last wish dad i miss u sleep on in the lord.
Funke

Dady, Papa J, it's 3yrs today since you left us, i wish you are alive to c hw and wat we are today. we missed you and loved and will alwasys love you.
Yomi

Daddy Mi, its 3 years today, so much like a dream to me, u left us all alone and made us strong to face the world. i vividly remember your every smile and they way you adore us, "OMO MI" as u always say, u were a father i will always want from God. Mum has been strong for us, she stands in at every single thing so that we don’t feel your absence but we know she misses you a great deal. Continue to sleep in the bosom of the Lord! World Greatest Dad; Julius Adebayo Ayeni. I love u more.............Now u have Lade to the addition of your Grand Kids, yes we growing larger,,,,Yeni, Laolu, mama, Ijinleife and Lade says We Love and Miss u Grand Pa
Yinka


Sleep on Daddy!

~ Never Judge Anyone ~

In Life i have seen that we, judge people by appearance , instant actions or words spoken, we never give the benefit of doubt to know what would have made an action to take place.

This story below is just an eye opener for us never to judge anyone no matter what.:

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block.
He found the boy’s father going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor. Once seeing him, the dad yelled:
“Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have the sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled and said:
“I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Bible “From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”

“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank God! Your son is saved!”

And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any question, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

NEVER JUDGE ANYONE because you never know how their life is and as to what is happening or what they’re going through.

This also shows that in spite of our present situation we should still give our best and help save someone from experiencing whatever bad situations we have encountered.

i was so touched because with this particular situation and this showed the trust and strong believe in God exhibited by the Doctor; who had all the options of not performing the surgery cos he was also bereaved.

God is a very important aspect of our lives and once we can have him to take total charge, every situation is a stepping stone!